Shattered American Dreams

Sorry everyone, but my humor is taking a break just for today. I’ve got a serious topic to discuss that may already be affecting you, or could affect you or someone you know at some point in the future.

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In 2003, we signed the paperwork to start our little version of the American Dream. We bought a new house, being built in a new community. We were recently married, I had a good job, and a few months later I would be pregnant.

I’ll admit we were surprised at what we were buying. A four bedroom two-story house with an attached garage. The price was low compared to many homes in Columbus, but to us it still looked a little scary. Could we really afford this beautiful home?

Our Beazer Homes saleswoman only smiled at us and told us they wouldn’t approve us for the loan if it was outside of our means. Aaron was finishing school, so it was only my income they based it on. We were quickly approved without any problems, and Aaron and I figured that he would soon have a job as well, which would make it even easier to afford this starter home.

The saleswoman showed us what our payments would be, and we agreed that it looked reasonable. We were offered an FHA fixed rate loan with a 2/1 buydown, meaning the builder pays 2% of the interest rate the first year, and then 1% the second year. It is supposedly designed to help ease the buyer into mortgage payments. I considered myself a savvy person when it came to money, and I grilled her with questions. But she glided past each question, showing us that at the very most, our mortgage would never go past $1000 a month.

After delays in building (which is another story entirely), our house was ready in May 2004. The first year we had no problems paying the bills. We even managed to buy some new furniture to outfit our home. The second year, when our payments jumped $100 a month, we were a little nervous, but still managed to handle it, even after I had quit my job and taken a part-time job.

We just ended the second year, and now the payments have gone up again. But not just the $100 we expected it to jump, according to all of the numbers-sheets Beazer gave us. Oh, no. Last night I opened the envelope and was met with a payment for nearly $1300 due! That’s a jump of $400 per month.

It seems Beazer underestimated the property taxes that would be assessed on our house. We haven’t had large jumps in property taxes around here – they’re the same they were when the house was built, and the house hasn’t gained any value. They simply chose to not fully disclose what the true costs of the house would be.

We’re not alone in this sticker shock. In our neighborhood, at least four homes have been lost to foreclosure. At least double that have been placed on the market, as the owners desperately try to sell the house before they face foreclosure as well. Others have been forced into alternative refinancing options that are simply a bandage on a fatal wound.

I’ve also discovered this is a statewide problem, and is becoming a national problem as well. Ohio recently claimed the top spot for highest number of foreclosures in the nation. Our builder, Beazer Homes, currently is #1 for foreclosures with an 18% default rate. Of the buydown mortgages signed in Columbus, 10% are more than three payments behind. This article gives more information on the topic itself. (I should mention that in our area, Dominion Homes are the worst of the worst, and second in the nation.)

Luckily, Aaron got the new job. It does pay more, although now it seems a significant portion of that raise will go directly to the raise in our mortgage. Had the new job not come through, we might have been facing the loss of our house, just like many of our neighbors.

Looking back, I don’t understand why we were approved for the amount of our loan when it is now clear that it would have been impossible to pay it. Well, I guess we could have paid it, but we wouldn’t have had enough money left over to heat it, or pay for the electricity to microwave our ramen noodles.

We’re not ignorant people – we did our research – but we were given misleading numbers to begin with. If I tried to bring new numbers into the conversation, our saleswoman (and our mortgage broker) were skilled at twisting said numbers to show me how they were wrong. Since I have no formal education in mortgages, I trusted them. Me – the person who doesn’t trust anyone – somehow believed what they told me.

The entire situation makes me furious now. I feel betrayed by the people who smiled so nicely and sucked us right into that vision of the American Dream, all the while knowing we would be in financial hardship two years later without a big change to our income. I watch helplessly as our neighbors are forced to give up their dreams as they are forced from their homes due to predatory lending.

Even if we wanted to sell our house, we wouldn’t be able to. The home values in our neighborhood have not gone up because of the foreclosures. We probably couldn’t even sell the house for what we paid for it. It’s a losing situation for everyone except the builder, who happily leaves the mess they made behind with a fat bank account, soon to find another tract of land to repeat the process all over again. They prey on those in the lower middle class income bracket – those who want their first home, and make just enough to possibly cover the costs.

If you are thinking about buying a new home, get outside assistance. Don’t let the builder’s mortgage company show you the numbers – get them confirmed by an independent source. Learn more about buydowns and educate yourself before signing the paperwork. And don’t let someone try to sell you the American Dream with plans to rip it out from under you in two years.

Edited to add: Thanks for the responses so far. Just to clarify, we’re fine, and we will be able to keep the house without problem. The new job came in at just the right time to save the day. But I do still feel sorry for neighbors and those in other neighborhoods who aren’t so lucky.



Wannabe

Uh, Britney? Mrs. Federline? You got a minute?

OK, clearly you either have no real friends, or your friends haven’t had the guts to tell you, so I guess that leaves it up to me. *deep breath*

I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but Britney, a dye job won’t make you a hip, cool mama, no matter how dark you dye it. You’ll never be as cool as Angelina Jolie, even if you have baby #2 in Namibia.

Why will you never be a cool mommy? Well, first, because you won’t put away the boobs and spit out your gum to talk to Matt Lauer, which just screams “white trash”.

Second, you’re married to this dork:

I rest my case.



She’s Just Big Boned

Conversation held with another mom this weekend at a play area:

Other Mom: How old is your little girl?

Me: 21 months.

OM: Oh, our kids are the same age!

Me: (looking at her little boy) Oh! Cool.

OM: She’s just so big for her age!

Me: Uh, yeah, she is. She’s a big, healthy girl.

OM: She’s got at least a couple of inches over my son!

Me: Yep, I guess she does. We’re hoping for a basketball player.

OM: How much does she weigh?

Me: Close to 30 pounds. She’s slowed down in the past few months.

OM: WOW! My little guy is only about 24 pounds!

(silence for awhile as the kids play)

OM: When I first saw your daughter, I thought she must be two or three, but then I noticed she didn’t act like a two year old.

Me: Oh really? Yeah, well, she’s often mistaken for being older than she is.

OM: My son is right around the 50th percentile. He’s pretty much average.

Me: Huh. Well, nothing wrong with average.

(a little more silence)

OM: My daughter was like yours when she was little. She was at the top of the charts until about 9 months, and then she leveled off.

Me: Oh, OK. Cordy has been at the top of the charts so far, with no signs of slowing down.

OM: She really is big!

(OM’s husband comes in)

OM: (to husband) That little girl is the same age as our son, but look how much bigger she is!

OMH: Wow, she is big! Has she always been so big?

Me: Well, she was over 8 pounds at birth…

OM: (laughing) Our kids were both over 9 pounds when they were born!

Me: Yeah, well, clearly the steroids and bovine growth hormone are doing the job, then.

[end scene]

So there you have it. I have the largest 21 month old in Columbus. She’s big enough to make people stop and stare, and to make them keep reminding me just how large she is.

I was a little baffled by the conversation, unsure whether to be flattered or insulted. Was she trying to tell me my daughter was freakishly large next to her compact little boy?

I’ve often found myself chatting with other moms and doing the size comparison dance with them. We laugh about how different kids are, usually. This conversation just felt different, because this mom seemed to be so amazed that a child of that age could be so large. I started to wonder if I should call the circus and see if I could make any money off of my offspring.

Yes, Cordy is my Amazon warrior princess. She’s 35 inches tall, weighs close to 30 pounds, and has a cranium so large that she can already wear adult sized hats. She is already growing out of her 2T clothing and starting into 3T. (which is expensive, might I add) Her doctors place her at the tip-top of the charts. But she has the coordination of a 21 month old, meaning she crashes into everything. Head injuries are usually a daily occurrence. Thankfully, most of the time she barely notices.

Do I think she’s going to set records? No, of course not. She will eventually even out with her peers, whenever her body decides it’s time to slow down.

Do I wish she was just average? Sometimes. It would certainly put less strain on my back to carry a smaller toddler, less strain on my credit cards to buy clothing less often, and less strain on my nerves to fend off comments about her size. But she was my giant baby, and now she’s my Amazon toddler, and I love her just the way she is, even if she isn’t a dainty flower.

At least I know that if other kids ever try to bother her, she can hold her own in a fight.



Ahem…An Announcement, Please:

AARON GOT THE JOB!!!!

He got the call this morning, and will start on July 10. He was offered near the bottom of the pay range, but it’s still more than he makes now, and the job will have regular raises, unlike the job he has now, which has offered no raises.

He’s already turned in his resignation letter, and we are both overjoyed at the prospect of having a little more money each month, as well as a job for him that doesn’t leave him depressed. And it’s good timing, too: yesterday we had to take one of our cats to the emergency vet (he should be fine, but the bill hurts), and our dishwasher started spewing forth sudsy water onto the kitchen floor when we ran it yesterday. Plus I still have no A/C in my car.

That is all for now. I will be back later with a post about the conversation I had with another mom this weekend about the fact that my daughter is abnormally large.



New Header!

Well, here it is. I wanted to keep the current background style, but jazz things up a little. And I have not one, but THREE winners! See, I can’t choose just one winner – there were so many good ideas, I had to combine a few.

First, we have Karen, who designed the adorable book image in the header.

Next, we have Sandra, who produced a beautiful template, of which I borrowed the hand-colored image of Cordy for the right side of the header. (I may come back to that template design when I’m ready to switch templates!)

Finally, Kristen supplied the tagline. She actually gave me quite a list of taglines, all of which I may rotate into use over time. (And truthfully, I may use the taglines from everyone else as well!)

Thank you to everyone who entered the contest. I appreciate all of the inspiration you provided me, and I would be happy to return the favor at any time. And to my winners, please e-mail me your address and shirt size (or child’s shirt size, if you’d prefer the Blog Fodder shirt for your child instead of the Woman, Daughter, Wife, Mommy, Blogger shirt for yourself).

(And another thanks to Her Bad Mother, who inspired Karen with the her comment about Cordy being a “warrior child” and prompting the title of the book image. How about I’ll buy you a drink at Blogher?)

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