Lesson of the day: Never let your family know about your blog.
Trust me on this one. No matter how much you think they can handle it, no matter how much they say they understand that it’s your inner feelings, no matter how much they beg to know about what you write and say the understand that a blog is your personal truth – not necessarily the factual truth – and that things you say don’t necessarily represent the whole picture.
Avoid it.
That is all.
(Yes, I’ve been dooced in a family way. Just shoot me.)
Or if you do, keep that in mind. And censor yourself. Every. Time. You post.
My blog started as a way to keep family updated on the kids and has evolved as I’ve ventured into the blog-community. But I’m trapped and now have to censor myself. Bah. Sorry for your drama.
I’ve been there. I am careful about what I say about my family and try to stick to ME as much as possible. The result is that my blog is blander than it was in the beginning, when nobody knew it was there. I’m reminded of that on those few occasions when I HAVE to write about something my family does, and they pre-approve the post. I get more comments on those than any of the others.
You will figure out how to make it work, even if you have to start a new, anonymous blog to write out those inner feelings.
Oooh, that is a hard bridge to cross. I hope this works out for you… Courage!
my family knows i have a blog but i haven’t directly given out the address, but my mom uses my laptop when she watches my kids so i’m postive it is read. also don’t let people at work know you have a blog-there are stories i’d love to tell, but i don’t want to get in trouble at work.
hey-i’m having a contest on my blog and noone is entering-to win a childrens book, want to come check out?
oh Christina, that is a big sigh indeed. I hope it all comes out it the wash, as they say.
you can always get a pink apartment.
email me if you want deets, but there IS an answer 😉
and this is why my blog is SUPER secret, tho my husband knows and occasionally reads it. but THAT’S IT.
My family kind of knows I have a blog, but I haven’t sent the address out. I figure, if they google hard enough, they’ll find me. With that in mind, I never post something I’d be worried about hurting anybody’s feelings over. However, in the moment of a rant, that can be hard to remember. Hope the family is able to get through any issues it has over this. Good luck, hon.
I guess I’m kind of lucky. My family knows about the blog, but they rarely read it because of lack of time. The couple times they read it, they were not happy about the content, and I told them they needed to take it with a grain of salt.
I hope everything is resolved soon!
What exactly are they upset about? I’ve never read a hurtful word on your blog about any family members.
If they are reading this comment, I want them to know that your blog is an inspiration to me and I enjoy your honest feelings.
-hugs-, Christina. I adore you.
Yeah, not only does my mom read, but her best friend does too.
Oh … so sorry for the stress … I can only imagine and thanks for the warning to the rest of us. Hoping it all works out between you and “them”
Isn’t it funny how we can share things with our blog buddies that we can’t with family? I’m the same way. My family doesn’t know about my blog, except for my sister. Of course my hubby knows, but he has no desire to read it. I don’t even tell my personal friends. It’s just too exposed. It’s really weird that it’s that way. Hope things clear up for you soon.
I really wish that I had not told my family. I have to be so very careful about the things I post. I feel like a child sometimes since I always felt that I had to be someone else around my parents.
Yeah, I don’t want my MIL to know about my blog, because she has been upset with me before for posting pics of my kids online. My husband told his aunt about it..I was not happy! He told me to call her and tell her not to tell my MIL, which I thought would be even weirder, so I’m sure the MIL knows by now and is just not letting me know that she knows. Who knows. Sorry you’ve been dooced!
I have a sneaking suspicion that this is in reference to stuff I read on twitter…
Ouch. Sorry that this is causing you stress.
HA! I had to change what I wrote about a bit when my family came in, so I hear ya.
i post NOTHING about family (extended) unless it is good. i also don’t dish about s*x. then again, that’s all normal for me. lol
oh no. no no no. this is my worst nightmare. ack. so sorry.
OUCH!
grrrrrrrr. blogger is being douchy again with the comments. if this one doesn’t post, then i am through trying. boo!
ANYWAY, what i was basically saying when stupid blogger lost my stupid comment was this: i’m sorry your family is being stupid. : )
my MIL reads mine and so does my mom, my dad and my step mom. It sucks that I have to be so cautious. However I’ve learned to use it to my advantage… I can hint pretty heavily at things without saying them. Hee hee… don’t hate the player.
we started the blog to share info about our kids & pics with our family – and lately, I think I need to start a super-secret blog, just to vent about family.
Hey, I saw your comment on this over at Blogher. If you want a safe place to leave a guest post, let me know.