*Reposted for the Parent Bloggers Network and Body, Soul, & Baby Blog Blast. We were asked to share our most annoying preggo or new mom question that someone asked us. This one still makes me shake my head.*
While in line at the cafe at work today:
Woman: Wow, look at you – you’re ready to pop! When are you due?
Me: Yesterday.
Woman: Oh, that must be awful to be past due! Are you in a lot of pain?
Me: (trying to avoid this conversation) I’m a little sore, but it’s not bad.
Woman: Well, what are you waiting for? Why not cut that baby out and get it over with?
Me: *blink blink*
Possible responses that flash by in my head:
Gee, I’m not so fond of major abdominal surgery.
Yeah, damn that little brat for being one day past the arbitrary date set by a calendar! I’ll show her who’s in charge!
My doctor has advised me not to take advice from idiot strangers with no medical background.
Huh, why didn’t I think of that? Got a knife?
Tried that once – not for me.
It’s a baby, not a tumor to be cut out at will.
Oh, that useless brain in your head must be awful! Why not just cut it out and get it over with?
What I actually say:
Me: (resisting urge to lecture on the complication risks of elective c-sections) She’ll come when she’s ready.
Sometimes I hate that little filter between my brain and mouth, especially when dealing with people who clearly have no filter. I mean, really – who asks something like that?
I think at this point I’d rather wear a shirt that says, “Just awkwardly fat, not pregnant” to avoid these types of conversations.
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Don’t you wish you could have just handed them this?
baby will come when she’s ready. good for you not imposing your own time frame. that baby knows when the time is right!
I have one of those pesky filters, too.
I should definitely get it removed!
I struggle with the same thing, wanting to say what is on my mind versus what is socially acceptable.
Amen!!! Not to mention the lost benefits of a vaginal delivery!
I can’t believe someone actually said that to you!
I could probably use a filter every now and then. You handled her well. Why waste your time?
Some people! I have that filter too.
I wrote about the whole sleeping through the night thing at http://www.mamaknj.blogpspot.com
I didn’t get that question, but I HATE hearing it asked! HATE!
I don’t have a filter and its not a good thing. Enjoy that filter and hopefully that baby comes soon so the morons can stop saying moron things to you.
I am one bad, bad person… I go on a rant about the whole horror of elective abdominal surgery. Complete with how dumbass individuals in the entertainment industry make it seem so “cool”. Brooke Shields is a prime target, ppd after a “failed” induction… DUH! Proceeding on to the horrible scar tissue problems, the fact that I can’t sneeze without doubling over, I have horrible infections even now, six years later. Not to mention the whole miscarriage, that no one told me I was at risk for after that “lets just cut it out”.
If I’m really in a mood, I’ll elbow my husband and say, he thought things were much better after the homebirth of our second child! Wink wink nudge nudge, no pelvic floor damage on this waddling duck!
But I’m just a raving lunatic.
I am SO linking to this one!
mwah! Love it!
Grrr. People say the DUMBEST things sometimes.
You handled it with class though!
I definitely have the same filter as you. I come up with the best comebacks……way after the fact. My most annoying questions was “are you sure you are having a girl.” There is nothing worst than making a 9 month woman, with a fully decorated girly room, and a drawer full of pink question the sex of her baby.
GREAT POST!!
Oh that is too funny.. Well not really… but yes… people would say that to me, and i did not want anyone cut out of anywhere.